Pushing Buttons

You know what it is. The thing that really pushes your buttons, no matter how much you think you won’t overreact the next time your kid does it.
In How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! (Greentree, 1997, $21.95) Sal Severe, a parenting expert, says do not wait for the next time.

Plan ahead. An example from his book:

Make a list of the behaviors that get you angry and upset. Then outline a plan to deal with each of them. For example:

Your two children argue.
Your plan to deal with it:
I will stay calm. I will not yell or get angry.
I will go sit in my room if I get angry.

I will cool off before I say anything. I will let it out slowly. I will not save my anger until it erupts. I will say, I feel angry when you argue like that.

I will spotlight the positive and focus on cooperation.
I will look for times when they agree.


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